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The PenitentI started this post yesterday, but didn’t manage to finish it — though it would have been more apropos if I had, since Friday is a day of penance for Catholics and other Christians.  Nevertheless, every day is a good day to ask: “Is penance still relevant?”

All right — we need to first establish what penance is not.  Forget about familiar images of shirtless monks flagellating themselves with heavy whips until they are nearly half-dead and bathed in blood (there is a practice of mortification involving a rope, but it is much milder than that).  We Catholics do not hate our bodies, and I cannot emphasize that strongly enough.

Apart from religious reasons, I would argue that penance (prudently undertaken, of course) has tremendous benefits for the human person in general, and for today’s society in particular.

First, it encourages patience.  Without a doubt, we live in an instant gratification society.  We want what we want when we want it.

NYC_subway_riders_with_their_newspapersWe often complain (rightly) that our society is too busy, and that the professional world moves too fast and demands too much of our time and energy.  But what we tend to forget is the reason for this.  Our jobs and culture allow us so little leisure precisely because we are an immediate-satisfaction society.  Satisfaction of this desire demands that our industries, businesses, and other providers be constantly at the grindstone.

A spirit of penance encourages us to delay satisfaction and gratification, to say “no” to ourselves in the moment so as to build discipline and pave the way for greater, deeper rewards.  If 25 people in our society embraced a spirit of penance, imagine what effect that might have on our “go-go,” “get-get” culture.

The second benefit penance has for our society is related to this point.  Like I said, we modern Westerners have the tendency to move way too fast.  When we fast, when we deny ourselves certain legitimate pleasures for a time, or when we impose rigorous disciplines on ourselves, we then give ourselves occasion to grow in gratitude.  We come to realize that all good things are gifts from God, on Whom we depend for our every need.  This realization helps us to slow down and appreciate even the little things in life that we take for granted.

I could go on longer, but enough said for now.  Hopefully, this illustrates how even those aspects of traditional Christian teaching that are counter-intuitive are, in the last analysis, life-giving, and meant only for the good of humankind.

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Nebraska_PosterFor part one, click here

So we’ve established that Woody and Kate Grant (Bruce Dern and June Squibb) do not enjoy a blissful marriage.  We can only assume that Woody’s deep discontent, which his supposed $1 million winnings are meant to alleviate, is tied to this.

It seems to me that there are two possible explanations for this.  First, Woody and Kate may have approached marriage with insufficient circumspection in their early days.  Kate comments that boys growing up in their hometown of Hawthorne, Nebraska spent their young lives looking at the backsides of pigs and cows, and therefore were hopelessly lost at the sight of the first girls they saw.


Nebraska_WalkingBut there is another possible explanation.  What I have in mind here is the image of Woody walking, which is fairly constant throughout the film.

All sentient creatures have in common the trait of movement (though to varying degrees).  From my perspective as a Catholic Christian, I believe that such creatures are more like their Creator than, say, rocks and plants, which have no consciousness or awareness; as such, unlike the latter they tend toward motion, or activity (while God does not have to “move” as creatures do, since He is infinite and perfect, He is never idle).

With human beings, this goes a step further.  Our drive toward movement is not just physical, but also spiritual (and, as a derivative of both, psychological).  In the depths of our being, we are never satisfied.  We are always yearning for something more, something that seems within and yet painfully outside our grasp.

Saint_Augustine_by_Philippe_de_ChampaigneThis is because, as St. Augustine of Hippo famously said, our hearts are made for God, and are therefore “restless until they rest in (Him).”

bruce.dern_.et_.june_.squibb.dans_.nebraska.dr_It is quite possible that Woody and Kate approached marriage with the idea that it would be a “domestic utopia.” giving them perfect happiness.  One way or the other, it is clear that they were not approaching the whole question of marriage with any profound spiritual basis in mind.

Marriage is a glorious thing.  But if we are expecting it to be the one thing that will fulfill all of our deepest human needs, then we are placing a burden upon it that it is unable to carry.  In this way, we come to expect more of it and of our spouses than they are meant to give.  This expectation affects those who get married for that reason as well as those who avoid marriage because they are afraid of its imperfections; I suspect the latter tendency is, in part, what affects the generations that have followed that of Woody and Kate.

Indian WeddingBut if we view marriage as a calling, if we approach it with attention to the will of a Higher Power and see it as a common mission between husband and wife, that changes things.  If we see it as a sign to the world of the Great Bridegroom, Jesus Christ’s unwavering love for and fidelity to mankind and a foreshadowing of its perfect consummation at the end of time — a promise far more fulfilling than a million bucks — well, that changes things even more. (See my June 7 post for more on this topic)

Grant Family

“Nebraska” ends on a fairly positive note.  The members of the Grant family, having spent some time together on their unexpected trip to Nebraska and gone through a lot of interesting adventures, grow closer.  A situation like this reminds us of how God can, as they say, “draw straight with crooked lines.”  So thank you, Alexander Payne, for leaving audiences with hope rather than despair.

Movie stills obtained through a Google image search; remaining images from Wikipedia

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“If you want to make God laugh, tell Him your plans.”

eduardo-verastegui-bella– Jose, “Bella”

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Not to be a prude…but if you watch this trailer, just be aware that there is some profanity/obscenity in it.

Alexander Payne’s latest film, “Nebraska,” is probably the best comedy of the past couple years.  It might not be as much of a belly-roller as, say, “This Is the End” or “22 Jump Street;” but unlike most contemporary comedies, it manages what the genre actually does best: It incorporates an underlying layer of tragedy.

As the film opens, we meet Woody Grant (Bruce Dern), an elderly man walking alone in the midst of traffic in Billings, Montana.  We soon learn that he is trying to get to Lincoln, Nebraska to collect the $1 million he has won in a sweepstakes.

Film Review NebraskaWoody’s son, David (Will Forte) tries to get him to understand that this is a come-on, meant to lure him into buying a magazine subscription.  Nevertheless, Woody is convinced he has winnings to collect, and is determined.  For the sake of his father’s happiness and against the judgement of his mother, Kate (June Squibb), David agrees to drive him to Lincoln.  There begins the road trip that is the life of the movie.

Nebraska_PosterA few things struck me about this film.  First, and unmistakably, there is a sense of deep longing.  Our main character is nearing the end of his life with broken dreams and unrealized hopes.  Solace seems to come to him chiefly in the form of alcohol.  The sweepstakes, as his son shrewdly observes, has given him a newfound hope, something to live for.

June Squibb – Nebraska

Much of Woody’s discontent appears to be tied to his marriage.  We get the definite impression that this is an unhappy union from the perspectives of both partners (although Kate’s unhappiness with Woody seems more like frustrated love than anything else).

This doesn’t surprise me.  Much of the ambiguity, turmoil, and sadness of the human condition seems inextricably entwined with upsets in marriage…and vice versa.  Don’t get me wrong — marriage is beautiful and permanently essential, and of itself the source of nothing bad whatsoever; but if we recall that the Fall of mankind happened within the context of a marriage, we will not be surprised if the Fall touches marriage in a particular way.

What must be particularly upsetting for Woody and Kate is to see that their perseverance in matrimony is not reflected in their progeny.  Toward the beginning of the film, we briefly meet David’s live-in girlfriend, Noel.  To make a long story short, there is no hint of marriage and a surprising lack of commitment between them.

Stacy KeachTo make matters worse, Woody’s old friend and business partner Ed Pegram (Stacy Keach) comments thus: “Divorce used to be a sin.  God must have changed His mind” (emphasis mine).

Imagine things from Mr. and Mrs. Grant’s perspectives.  They “stuck it out” for decades, each likely having to make very difficult sacrifices along the way…only to find their grown children (or at least one of them) not reflecting the validity of this commitment in their turn.  I imagine there are more than a few married couples from the pre-Sexual-Revolution days who have experienced similar disappointment.

Don’t misunderstand me: In no way am I suggesting that all, or even most — or even very many, for that matter — pre-1960 marriages were unhappy or driven by mere “stick-to-it-iveness.”  Nor am I suggesting that marriage is dead today.  What we are looking at here are two different philosophies of marriage and life, and this contrast bears very much on the storyline of “Nebraska.”

I’ll explore this topic in more depth in part two.

“Nebraska” poster obtained from Wikipedia; remaining images obtained through a Google image search

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St JosephI wipe noses for a living.

Let me expand on that: My job includes direct care for people with various disabilities, some of which entail the inability to move one’s extremities (hence the need to wipe people’s noses for them when necessary).  I have jokingly said that I feel ready to be a dad after handling this and similar duties at work.

Which brings me to St. Joseph, the guardian and “acting father” of the Word incarnate.  He is in many ways an archetypal father figure, as well as a model of true manliness.

First of all, let me test your Bible knowledge.  Take a minute and see if you can recall St. Joseph’s most famous words, as quoted in the Bible.  Go ahead, I’ll wait.

Can’t think of anything?  Not surprising — St. Joseph never says one word in any of the Gospels.

The Scriptural witness to St. Joseph’s silence speaks to us of his fatherly humility before the great Mystery entrusted to his care.  Think about it: He was the only sinner in a home that he shared with the God-Man Jesus Christ and the Immaculate Virgin Mary.  And yet, in the designs of Divine Providence, he was given charge of the Holy Family.  His was the responsibility to provide for the Holy Family’s material needs, to lead them in the observance of the Law, to teach the Child Jesus everything he would need to know as a man of Israel, etc.

Saint_Joseph_with_the_Infant_Jesus_by_Guido_Reni,_c_1635Given the paucity of material regarding this great man in the Scriptures, we cannot say very much about him for sure.  But a very prominent and likely theory is that he was an older man, one who had lived a relatively long time and reached a particular level of righteousness (there was a name for such men in ancient Israel, but it escapes me).  It was for this reason that he could take the young virgin Mary (who was very likely a consecrated virgin…but that is the subject of a whole other post) as his wife.  Unlike most of us, he had been purified by God to such an extent that he could admire a woman’s beauty without feeling any lust, could have charge over a very young woman and her child without wanting to exercise authoritarian dominance over them, etc.

I would say that if the Blesséd Virgin Mary shows forth her Queenship in her role as the Mother of Jesus, St. Joseph shows us true kingship in his role of fatherhood.  Indeed, parenthood is the most sublime, significant, and impacting form of leadership and authority in human life.  All other authority derives from, rests on, and is in a certain sense ordered toward that.

I am reminded of J.R.R. Tolkien’s “The Return of the King,” in which the coming of Aragorn is foretold in this way:

The hands of the king are the hands of a healer, and so shall the rightful king be known (V.viii).

And that brings me back to my nose-wiping reference.  I truly hope this is not in any way sacrilegious — if it is, someone please let me know, and it will be promptly removed.  But given that Jesus Christ was like us in all things but sin, I cannot help but wonder if, as a child, He would have needed his nose wiped from time to time.  True, it is more common (and, I would say, more natural) for the mother to be the one handling the blowing of noses, the bandaging of wounds, the kissing of bruises, the assuaging of natural human woes, etc.  But surely, attending to the Child Jesus in this way must not have been foreign to St. Joseph, nor do I think it is foreign to any dad reading this right now.


Finally, all leadership and authority has its ultimate source and verification in God, Who relates to us as a Father (not because He is male, since God has no gender…but Fatherhood is the most fitting way to describe His relation to us in His transcendence).  So the fatherly form of parenthood and its role in Jesus’ earthly life should not be ignored.  Each and every father should approach his family in the spirit of St. Joseph — that is, in humility before the sublime gifts that God has entrusted to him…the gifts that are nothing less than immortal souls entrusted to his providence, protection, and leadership.

First and foremost, he has to realize this: It is not about him.  True fatherhood consists in the total gift of oneself, loving one’s wife as Christ loves His Church and loving his children as God the Father — Who holds back nothing of Himself, even to the sacrifice of His own Son (John 3:16) — loves His children.  And a father with true humility of this sort will not be afraid to get into the mess of dirty diapers, runny noses, and other such business.

St. Joseph, patron of nose-blowing men, pray for us!

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Into the Dance

There is a practice in traditional Hindu weddings where the groom says to his bride, “I am heaven, you are earth;” and the bride responds, “I am earth, you are heaven.”

As I have said before, femininity has traditionally symbolized immanence, while masculinity has symbolized transcendence.  In marriage, the complementarity of the sexes reaches its peak.

Does this awareness of manhood and womanhood carry over into our experience of fatherhood and motherhood?  If so, what does it mean for fatherhood?

Father_and_sonLet’s take the structure of a house as an analogy.  The mother is like the ground portion; she is the upholder, the secure base, the living cradle of the child’s life.

The father is more like the roof; he is the protector, the shelterer, the trustworthy “custodian” of the family.

Linking the roof and the floor are the walls, which we can imagine to be the arms of the…

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Vietnam Wall_2My community currently enjoys the great privilege of having “The Moving Wall” in its midst.  A half-size replica of Washington, D.C.’s Vietnam Veterans Memorial, the Wall travels the United States every year from April through November.

Vietnam Wall_3Having spent a good part of today there, I am poignantly reminded of just how bittersweet is this “dance” we live in.  Out of the terrible tragedy of lives lost in the brutality of war comes the gathering of generations to honor the heroism of the human spirit.

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Note: This is essentially a “reblog” of the October post titled “Why Huge Monsters Destroy Big Cities (I Think…),” but slightly edited to go with the recent “Godzilla” movie.

The King Kongs, the Godzillas, and all the “Its” from beneath the sea or outer space are among our cult favorites and also, ironically, our worst nightmares.  One thing is for sure: While we haven’t seen any of these revered titans roaming our cities yet (knock on wood), in terms of popular culture they’re not going anywhere.

I have yet to see the new “Godzilla” movie; but from what I’ve heard, the film sets the monster scenes in the background while primarily focusing on the troubled relationship between the main character and his son.  I always welcome this sort of approach, as it makes incredible situations seem more real by putting real people with real problems in their midst.

I think being confronted with realism in the context of the unbelievable — or vice versa, depending on how you look at it — has a way of getting us to think about the greater meaning of the unbelievable from a gut level, rather than in a cerebral and detached fashion.


I happen to think guilt and fear have something to do with many narrative preoccupations, including this one.  So what does it mean when we see giant monsters attacking big cities, exactly?

In some sense, it might be intended as a commentary on nature’s resurgence against the pride of a hyper-technological society.  But at bottom, I wonder if there is not something deeper at work here.

Elsewhere, I have written about the fact that

(h)uman beings have sinned.  The animals, the trees, and the rest of nature have not.  But when we turned away from God, we dragged the whole of creation down the road to destruction with us (“Wolves and Whales: Man and Nature in ‘The Grey’ and ‘Big Miracle’ — Part Two”).

But there’s something else we have to keep in mind as well.  In the second century, St. Irenaeus of Lyons made a key observation when reflecting on God’s determination that mankind should not be lost in spite of Original Sin:

It was for this reason, too, that immediately after Adam had transgressed, as the Scripture relates, He pronounced no curse against Adam personally, but against the ground, in reference to his works, as a certain person among the ancients has observed: God did indeed transfer the curse to the earth, that it might not remain in man. Genesis 3:16, etc. (“Adversus Haereses,” III:xxii — bold added)

FullMetalJacketDeluxe_1I am reminded of Stanley Kubrick’s 1987 film “Full Metal Jacket,” in which an inept private named Leonard Lawrence (Vincent D’Onofrio) brings the wrath of Gunnery Sergeant Hartman (R. Lee Ermey) upon his fellow basic trainees.  A little ways into the film, Sergeant Hartman announces to everyone that from that point on, whenever Private Lawrence messes up, they – not he — will be punished.

And what do Private Lawrence’s comrades do eventually?  They gather around him as he sleeps and pelt him with rolled-up socks.

Obviously, this is an imperfect analogy in many ways.  But being in a sense the carrier of our curse, nature — whether in the form of natural disasters, animals (fictional or real), or otherwise — is not one to cry “(p)eace, peace … though there is no peace” (Jeremiah 6:14).

But St. Irenaeus did not stop there…

But man received, as the punishment of his transgression, the toilsome task of tilling the earth, and to eat bread in the sweat of his face, and to return to the dust from whence he was taken. (Adversus Haereses, III:xxii — bold added)

Our task of stewardship over the earth was never abrogated (though it was made more difficult).  And especially now that Jesus Christ has Himself borne our curse upon the Cross…well, just as we led creation into darkness, we must now lead it into redemption.

To the extent that we are fulfilling our task, we have nothing to fear.  But the more we are leading lives dedicated to worldliness, self-indulgence, luxury and greed, the more of a “wake-up call” we need.

“It Came from Beneath the Sea” still from Wikipedia; “Full Metal Jacket” still obtained through a Google image search.

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